Six months into grief, I was learning that losing your person is not one loss. There is the obvious loss. The person you love is gone. Then there are the secondary losses. The routines. The plans. The person you text when something funny happens. The person whose car you recognize pulling into the driveway. The future you assumed was waiting for you. And then, if you are a common-law spouse in Ontario, there can be another loss waiting for you—one you may have absolutely no i